In today’s time and pace of life, many men and women find getting married, a tough proposition. Even when they agree, each one has a different set of expectations which most of the time cannot be met by either of the partners.
Pre-Marital Counseling, a specialized type of therapy provided by marriage therapists, is believed to offer benefit to all couples who are considering a long-term commitment. Typically, the goal of premarital counseling is to identify and address any potential areas of conflict in a relationship early on, before those issues become serious concerns, and teach partners effective strategies for discussing and resolving conflict.
Partners seeking counseling before marriage may also find that premarital counseling can help them better understand their expectations about marriage and address any significant differences in a safe and neutral environment.
The first step in Pre marital counseling is to make would-be grooms & brides understand the importance of institution of marriage & prepare themselves mentally for the marriage. They should be willing to change themselves & accommodate their partners in their spaces- both mental & physical.
Once mentally prepared, next step be the selection of the suitable partner. More than the individual merits of the marrying partners, it is the compatibility between the two that needs to be assessed. It is often a difficult task, more so because at that point of time, would-be-spouses have the tendency to hide negative points & put their best-foot forwards. Latter becomes difficult to sustain all the time once they marry & live together.
Whether a love or an arranged marriage, or an arranged-cum-love marriage, it is not impossible to predict how partners are likely to relate with each other after marriage. Few of the many challenges that may catch them by surprise after marriage if they are not pre-prepared are whether they should honestly & completely share their pasts, how much personal spaces they ought to have within their shared space, how pleasing or irritating habits they perceive of each other, how are their respective values to various facets of life, what value they attach to institution of marriage etc. The career aspirations of spouses, the finances, the family ties, family obligations, bringing up of children, their schooling & careers, place of residence etc, are the factors which may make a happy married life if due attention to these concerns had not been paid, prior to getting married.
At Vishwas Healing Centre, we offers expert guidance and counseling help to both men and women, before they embark on this journey together so that they learn to view matters more maturely, make compromises more easily and make judicious choices.